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Be an Intentional Mom

INTENTIONAL –
in·ten·tion·al
/inˈten(t)SH(ə)n(ə)l/
Done on purpose, deliberate

com·mit·ted
/kəˈmidəd/
feeling dedication and loyalty to a cause, activity, or job; wholeheartedly dedicated.

i·den·ti·ty
/ˌīˈden(t)ədē/
The fact of being who or what a person or a thing is.

Interesting how a thing can easily let you know what they are. For example: A TV knows it is a TV – it comes with the big name, and the manual and you can even get great resources online and reviews. A TV cannot wake up tomorrow and say, I’m a radio now or a phone.

There are three things we can learn from the identity of a TV.

1. A TV knows their identity:

Yes, a TV is very clear on what it can or cannot do – No confusion there.
Are you clear on your identity?
Do you know who you are?
 Have you really been intentional and committed to defining who you are?
New moms, now is a good time to get the whole “mom-identity” all figured out. Put those babies’ sleepless nights or growth sprouts feeding sessions to good use and spend time thinking about who you are now as a mom.

Empty nesters, the children are all grown or you are waiting to resume your grandma duties, it is never too late to define yourself.

Of course, moms with children in school (I know they are off for the summer) but make sure you take sometime to figure it out – whether in the bathroom or while the children are playing outside.

You should be able to answer the question of what can I or cannot do. Watch the Mom chat – “Am I just a mom?” here <<<

2. A TV is proud of its brand:

Asides from the obvious brand name plastered on the rim of the TV. When you switch on a TV, the brand name pops up boldly and it even makes its entrance with music.
Are you proud of your brand?
Are you proud of who you have become?
Are you proud of who you see in the mirror or even the thoughts that pop up in your head?
If you are proud of it – embrace it fully;

So you have decided to be a working mom – embrace it;  

you are stay at home mom – love it;

you are a career mom – rock it!

“Be proud as a TV”, ( if there is any phrase like that lol).

3. A TV cannot change who they are:

This is where we are sooooo different from a TV, we can always make a change. If you don’t like your mom-identity, you can make a change to do something about it. It may require a drastic change or just a small one. But we have the ability to make a change. We are not “doomed” like a TV.

So my question to you are:

1. Do you have a brand?
2. Do you love the brand you are projecting?
3. Are you willing to make a change if you need to?

We love helping moms figure this out. You can get on a FREE 30mins call with us – yes, it is completely free!

We would also love to here from you – whether you would like to proudly share your brand with us or you would like to figure it all out. We would love to hear from you.

Book your call here – www.momleader.com/momchat
Decide to be “intentional” and “committed” to your mom- “identity”.
I’ll see you around.
X
Nike 
Fellow Momleader
@iamamomleader

 

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Who am I now? Struggling with your mom identity.

You’re a mom, but, WHO ARE YOU?

You’ve read this and either you answered confidently, or you found yourself like a lot of the other moms I have come across, that can’t tenderly, answer that question.

When I am in my beginning coaching sessions with a mom, I will often ask them to describe who they are. A certain mom will answer with a job they used to do, enlighten me on all their hobbies they used to have fun with, what goals they pursued before children, but at the end of the day, none of that is actually who they are now. They struggle to tell me who they are as an individual now being a mom.

Now if you actually stop and ponder, can you answer that question. Not who you were, not where do you want to be, but truly, who are you know?

So much of our identity can be tied to our career, our freedom, our social lives and when motherhood comes, we aren’t quite sure what happened to all of that or where to get it back. Will we ever get “it”back?

Have you lost yourself, mama?

Moms lose themselves. We do. We lose our identity in our children. Sometimes it takes moms a year or two to rediscover themselves and others go for years hiding in baggy clothes, focusing on the best products for the family, putting everyone else’s needs first, before they realize they are in an identity crisis and they’ve lost themselves along the way.

Some moms feel that after having children they are supposed to be the most fulfilled they have ever been and unfortunately, that is just not the case. Understandably, there are some challenges we uniquely face and we have to learn to switch from our single self, our married no kids self, to a woman with children. You are not just a mom. You are your own unique person with her own desires, passions, and likes. Yes, you have them. Believe me.

“I don’t have time”. Well, we can get into “you management”later. Let’s save time saving for another post or better yet, let’s have a chat on the phone. Otherwise…

I encourage you to KNOW YOUR MOM-IDENTITY.

Remember to listen to yourself. This is actually a training that moms will have to start doing again as they put their needs aside and forget completely about themselves. I have seen moms say I will cook that because my son likes this, I will buy that because my husband likes this, but they fail time and time again to consider themselves and actually think and listen to themselves. Start paying attention to what you really want and not just what is expected of you. Do you hear that?

You are not your old self. You are not a future version of what you want to be. You are who you are at this moment. You have the power to change, to have more time, to set goals, and to have likes. Take the opportunity to take yourself on a date and rediscover your mom identity.

Have fun finding out who you are and let me know your process along the way.

Nike

Fellow Momleader

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International Women’ Day – Salute to all moms!

SALUTE TO MOMS
“I need you to stop doing that right now, am I clear?!?”

That was me shouting out those words to my high-spirited-four-year-old daughter. In that moment, I realised that I sounded like my mom – Ooops!

 

Today is March 8th, 2019 – International Women’ Day. If you ask me who do I want to celebrate today – “MY MOM!”

 

WHY?!?!

 

Pretty simple, I love her of-course!

Funny is as a little girl, I had an endless list of things she could do differently and how she should have done it.

From wondering why she wouldn’t want me to indulge in certain things to wondering why I can’t watch TV after a certain time or eat what I wanted and when… My list was endless!

 

One minute, she was the best mom in the world, the next she wasn’t!

 

Being a mom myself (of two beautiful girls). I have come to realize that most of the things my mom did was because she was a mom!

When I was much younger, my mom was working full time, running her own business and raising 5 High spirited children:

 
Wow, what an amazing woman!
 

When I had my baby, I was over the moon. The moment I left the hospital with my bundle of joy – the first question I asked was:

 
“How did my mom do this?!?”
 

So today, this International Women’ Day – My respect goes out to my mom – and in fact all women out there.

Being a mom made me realize that women are more poweful than we want to think or even accept!

We have the power to do amazing things!

Much respect to all WOMEN!!!

For all moms out there – don’t forget to take some time for yourself – check my blogpost here >>>>on self care!

You are doing a great job! here are also some ideas on how you can show love to your children here >>>

 

I know you are not appreciated (as such!) – but Happy International Women’ Day

 

Much respect, SALUTE!!!

 

Nike Famojuro

 

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Seven Practical Ways You Can Show Love To Your Children

SEVEN PRACTICAL WAYS YOU CAN SHOW LOVE TO YOUR CHILDREN
I get this most times from Moms in my MomLeader Coaching Programs.
I often ask this question: “Do you show love to your children, that is; You love your children but do they know that?”

Pretty ironic right?!?

Here are Seven (7)n Practical Ways You Can Show Love To Your Child.
PS: It is NEVER to late or too early to start.
1. TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM:
This seems like a no-brainer right!?

Life can get busy that all we communicate to our children is what they are not doing right or their schedules, what is expected of them etc.

We forget at times to tell them what they need to hear (even though the child will not admit it! lol).

They need to hear it from you that you love them…PERIOD!…Say it!

 

2. PRAISE THEM:

This is kind of tied in with you telling your child you love them, that is, how you show love to your children.

Praising them is something you have to do consciously especially when you are going through difficult times with your child. Because of moms “nurturer” nature, we often only see EVERYTHING that needs to be fixed and we NEGLECT the things that are going on well. Find the good in your child and praise them for it

 

3. LISTEN TO YOUR CHILD;

9 out of 10, the biggest issue we had with our parents was that they didn’t listen to us…so Mommas, why aren’t  we listening to our children?

Always adopt this Steve Covey Effective Listening style which is:
“Seek first to Understand, then to be Understood”.
That is, concentrate on what is being said; rather concentrating on your response.
 

4. BE PRESENT:

Doing more than one task at once seems great because it allows us to get so many things done in a limited amount of time.

The disadvantage is that we tend not to be present while carrying a task.

When spending time with your child, be present.

All you need to do is create a time block for your child, with no interruption and with you being fully present.

This is definitely important if you want to show love to your children.

 

5. LAX THE RULES ONCE IN A WHILE:
It is awesome to have a schedule with the children especially when dealing with younger children.

But every now and then, it is okay to lax the rules.

How about if they stay up  late on a Friday night and watch a goofy movie with you or eat their breakfast in bed on Saturday morning…whatever you know they would like, lax the rules and watch their faces light up…Priceless!

 

6. SURPRISE THEM:

Everyone loves a good surprise – not just on Birthdays!

But remember, it is about them and not about you; so bear that in mind when choosing either what to give them or  what activity to do.

Do your research and NAIL it!

 

7. CREATE FAMILY TIME:

This concept is super important because it creates and nurtures closeness between family especially siblings. It is just like how companies have Team building programs with their staff members to encourage Team Dynamics.

By taking time off and being diligent with Family Time will not only create great Team Dynamics with your children, it is also a way you can show your family that you love them!

 

There you have it, 7 Practical Ways You Can Show Love to Your Child…if you want more, you can download the 37 Practical Ways You Can Show Love To Your Child here >> >

Remember, to check out 101-self-care-ideas-for-moms

Keep Loving Mommas,

 

I’ll see you around.

 

Nike Famojuro

Fellow MomLeader

 

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Stay At Home Moms are CEOs

I just had to write about this!

When you ask a Stay At Home mom,”What do you do?”

She usually doesn’t maintain eye contact and answer shyly, “I stay at home with the kids”

Or she gives a very nervous laugh and say, “The kids are my job”.

I have been a Stay at Home mom myself and I have done the same no doubt (too many times than I count).

Even now as a work from home mom, if asked, “What do I do?”  I am so quick to talk about the work I do from home – I’m a Mom-coach as opposed to claiming my place as a Stay At home mom who also runs MomLeader.

 

My question has always been, “Why do I feel like the work of a Stay At Home Mom cannot be considered as a job?”

I know that I cannot put a price on motherhood but then I cannot ignore all the work that goes into staying at home with the children. From cooking to cleaning to school runs to mitigating fights to diffusing temper tantrums – you name it!

You are so busy throughout the day yet at the end of the day it looks like you haven’t done much!

 

Truth be told, not every woman can survive being a Stay At Home Mom. Did you know that according to mother.ly and salary.com, the salary of a Stay At Home Mom for 2018 was estimated to be $162,581 per year. This was over $5000 increase from what it was in 2017!

 

Acoording to Salary.com, Jobs that reflected a day in the life of a Mom was used to achieve this estimated salary.

Example of the hybrid roles were (I picked out just a handful that jumped at me) :

Accountant
Buyer
Coach
CEO
Dietician
Event Planner
Interior Designer
Janitor
Judge
Laundry Manager
Logistics Analyst
Marketing Manage
Tailor
Tax Accountant
Staff Nurse
Psychologist
Day Care Centre Teacher

 

I can see why? I’m sure you can see why too!

These roles were put into consideration when  I was developing my Coaching program: MomLeader Incubator – a program for moms who want to start their dream business. I know quite well that Moms wear multiple hats.

My advice is that the next time you are asked, “What do you do?”

Don’t just say that “I’m just a Stay At Home Mom” – No you are not “JUST!”

Being a Stat At home Mom is a respectable role; an high paying role at that!!!!

You either respond with pride that: “You are a Stay At Home Mom” or better still, you can give whoever is asking the question a run down of the hybrid roles above 🙂

If you are curious, you can calculate your estimated salary as a Stay At Home Mom here. Just plug in your details to see what your salary would have been.

You might be interested in reading my recent blogposts:

Stay At Home Moms vs Working Moms

15 Honest Truths about Pregnancy

List of Inspiring Mom-Goals

 

I’ll see you around

Nike

Fellow MomLeader

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15 Honest Truths about Pregnancy

This goes out to all moms!

Here’s a list of 15 Honest Truths no one tells you about pregnancy. Some of them are my personal experiences and some are luckily not mine!

And mamas, before I go on, please don’t be shy to add to this list in the comments section below:

 

So, Here goes:

Pregnancy is HARD!!
I know moms especially some movie stars make it look so glamorous and effortless. I found out that pregnancy is a whole different ball game from day 1!

 

It is okay to admit that Pregnancy is NOT EASY for you:
Most people feel like they are ungrateful or just plain complaining if they admit that pregnancy is not easy. Oh well, let it all out!

 

Appetite Rollercoaster:

For some it is the never ending cravings; but for others it can be loss of appetite or the inevitable heartburn!

 

Peeing:

You will seek to pee in the most ridiculous places because when you have to go – you haveeeee to gooooo!

 

Belly-rubbing Crew:

Well meaning people are so thrilled to see a big belly. Please do not rub the belly even if the pregnant lady says it is ok.

 

You will look pregnant:

Whether the difference will be huge or not. You will look pregnant! If you didn’t look pregnant at the 1st or 2nd semester,   wait for it…

 

Wobble, wobble, wobble:

This is bound to happen. Buy comfortable shoes

 

Your belly after delivery will look pregnant:

This was a shock to me

 

Hemorrhoids:

They are real, whether during pregnancy or after you’ve had your bundle of joy.

 

Boogie, Boogers:

Have a tissue handy because you will be picking and plucking.

 

What’s with the skin:

From teenage acne to skin sag to stretch marks to black line on your belly. Be ready to say hello to skin changes.

 

Hello! “Farting-machine”:

 You get the picture!

 

Say goodbye to Sleep:

It is either you are looking for a comfortable sleep position all night or sleep won’t just come to you. Oh by the way, it gets worse when the little one arrives…(Just giving you heads-up!)

 

Compromised vision:

You will wonder what is wrong with your vision, don’t worry it is the pregnancy!

 

Getting back into your pre-pregnancy shape is hard work:

The truth is that asides from the discipline of losing weight, you now have a newborn which means you are too tired and uninspired to exercise.

 
These are my Top 15 Honest Truths about Pregnancy.
Despite all these, being mom is such a great privilege and the most unimaginable precious thing EVER!

 
Don’t forget to add your Honest Truths about Pregnancy in the Comments below or connect with me on instagram @iamamomleader.
I would love to hear all your Pregnancy Truths.

 

Ciao,

 

Nike Famojuro

Fellow MomLeader

 

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My Fancy Kimono

Online shopping is a great arsenal for all moms. The other day, I discovered this amazing fashion online store. I got some really lovely summer outfits at a great deal! Being so impressed with their fast delivery and quality, I decided to order some much needed outfits. I ordered this fancy kimono. It had great reviews and it was one size fits all. What could go wrong? When it arrived, it looked exactly like what was online and the quality was great. When I put it on, it was not a good fit. My initial reaction was ,”oh well”. But later as I looked at the fancy kimono, I realised that it was “one size fit all”.

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