Posts Tagged ‘goalsetting’

Who am I now? Struggling with your mom identity.

Monday, June 3rd, 2019

You’re a mom, but, WHO ARE YOU?

You’ve read this and either you answered confidently, or you found yourself like a lot of the other moms I have come across, that can’t tenderly, answer that question.

When I am in my beginning coaching sessions with a mom, I will often ask them to describe who they are. A certain mom will answer with a job they used to do, enlighten me on all their hobbies they used to have fun with, what goals they pursued before children, but at the end of the day, none of that is actually who they are now. They struggle to tell me who they are as an individual now being a mom.

Now if you actually stop and ponder, can you answer that question. Not who you were, not where do you want to be, but truly, who are you know?

So much of our identity can be tied to our career, our freedom, our social lives and when motherhood comes, we aren’t quite sure what happened to all of that or where to get it back. Will we ever get “it”back?

Have you lost yourself, mama?

Moms lose themselves. We do. We lose our identity in our children. Sometimes it takes moms a year or two to rediscover themselves and others go for years hiding in baggy clothes, focusing on the best products for the family, putting everyone else’s needs first, before they realize they are in an identity crisis and they’ve lost themselves along the way.

Some moms feel that after having children they are supposed to be the most fulfilled they have ever been and unfortunately, that is just not the case. Understandably, there are some challenges we uniquely face and we have to learn to switch from our single self, our married no kids self, to a woman with children. You are not just a mom. You are your own unique person with her own desires, passions, and likes. Yes, you have them. Believe me.

“I don’t have time”. Well, we can get into “you management”later. Let’s save time saving for another post or better yet, let’s have a chat on the phone. Otherwise…

I encourage you to KNOW YOUR MOM-IDENTITY.

Remember to listen to yourself. This is actually a training that moms will have to start doing again as they put their needs aside and forget completely about themselves. I have seen moms say I will cook that because my son likes this, I will buy that because my husband likes this, but they fail time and time again to consider themselves and actually think and listen to themselves. Start paying attention to what you really want and not just what is expected of you. Do you hear that?

You are not your old self. You are not a future version of what you want to be. You are who you are at this moment. You have the power to change, to have more time, to set goals, and to have likes. Take the opportunity to take yourself on a date and rediscover your mom identity.

Have fun finding out who you are and let me know your process along the way.

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Be Courageous – Momleader Mondays

Tuesday, May 14th, 2019

BE COURAGEOUS

Happy Monday to all moms, I hope you all had a fantastic Mother’s Day!

Mothers are simply amazing. Being a part of someone else’s life at whatever age is such a great privilege and also a great responsibility!
This responsibility requires a lot of bold steps to be taken on a daily basis. At every moment in our lives as moms, we make decisions that would not only affect us but also the family.

As you know by now, one of our Core Values at Momleader is “Be a Leader“.

Leadership requires wholeness.

A mom needs to be whole to be able to be an influencer.

Wholeness is not perfection, part of wholeness is the ability of a mom to take those required bold steps when making decisions like – what to feed her family, establishing her family’ values and also in the pursuit of her personal goals and dreams.

Moms would be able to achieve this if they are well informed when making these decisions.

This information is what we aim to provide at Momleader.

Being a Courageous Mom is all about following your mom-instincts, making “Informed decisions” plus following through with it.

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Build Relationships – Momleader Mondays

Monday, May 6th, 2019

BUILD RELATIONSHIPS

We all know that children are not born with a manual – We all became moms the moment we were given our new born with no prior training. No matter how prepared we were to be a mom – when the real motherhood kicked in; we found out that we were not prepared! We believe that moms can learn a lot from others.

Having access to other moms (who are either at the same stage they are in or ahead of them); that is having access to moms who are willing to share their experiences, victories and failures with other moms helps greatly on the motherhood journey.

Moms should have access to an exciting and fun learning ground where lifelong relationships are built and nurtured.

Wondering why having mom-friends makes all the difference, here are three of the many reasons it is great to have mom friends:
1. Your own Cheering Squad – they have been there or are currently there so they get it
2. Your Advisors – Still based on experience, they are great for giving their “two cents” which might be exactly what you need
3. Your Personal Reminder – they will remind you that you are a great mom for those hard days. They will also remind you of what you are capable of!
Get a mom tribe or network whether online or off line.

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List of Inspiring Mom-Goals

Friday, December 28th, 2018

Feeling STUCK as to where to start with setting your mom-goals for the New year!?!

I know the end of the year is when we make all these resolutions, but to be honest, you can start afresh at any time – any month, any day of the week and any time of the day. You can even decide to change from this very moment!!!

I understand that as moms, we can be super busy with the end of year activities and can neglect setting our mom-goals.

So, here are Five (5) Areas you need to consider when setting goals. I even added inspiring examples of mom-goals you can set in those areas – YES, you are welcome.  

1.PERSONAL

  • Love yourself
  • Self Care
  • Have a morning routine
  • Get More Sleep
  • Read More
  • Find an Outlet/Hobby
  • Travel more
  • See your children the way they are
  • Make New Friends
  • Challenge yourself more

 

2. HEALTH

  • Get fit
  • Join a gym or start an home exercise program
  • Eat more vegetables and fruits
  • Meal Prep every weekend
  • Make homemade snacks
  • Drink 2L of water everyday
  • Buy less takeaways
  • Keep Vital signs in the healthy range

 

3. FINANCIAL

  • Have a Budget
  • Get completely out of debt
  • Create an emergency fund
  • Buy a Home
  • Pay off Loans
  • Plan for large purchases
  • Save for Retirement
  • Increase your investment portfolio
  • Have multiple streams of income

 

4. FAMILY

  • Be Patient
  • Live in the Moment
  • Loose your temper less
  • Leave your work at work
  • Give more compliments
  • Appreciate your children more
  • Spend more time with your partner
  • Have “cell-phone free” conversations
  • Live life through your children’s eye
  • See your children they way they are
  • Be Flexible

 

5. SPIRITUAL

  • Pray more
  • Start Meditation
  • Go to Church regularly
  • Be more mindful
  • Be Mentor
  • Volunteer regularly
  • Help others more

 

These are five areas with inspiring mom-goals you can set. Please note that these examples are not specific; they are just a guide. If you are keen to set goals that would work – check out  this MomLeader VIdeo- https://bit.ly/2GlM41K..

 

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See you next week!