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Life Lessons Personal Development

Be an Intentional Mom

INTENTIONAL –
in·ten·tion·al
/inˈten(t)SH(ə)n(ə)l/
Done on purpose, deliberate

com·mit·ted
/kəˈmidəd/
feeling dedication and loyalty to a cause, activity, or job; wholeheartedly dedicated.

i·den·ti·ty
/ˌīˈden(t)ədē/
The fact of being who or what a person or a thing is.

Interesting how a thing can easily let you know what they are. For example: A TV knows it is a TV – it comes with the big name, and the manual and you can even get great resources online and reviews. A TV cannot wake up tomorrow and say, I’m a radio now or a phone.

There are three things we can learn from the identity of a TV.

1. A TV knows their identity:

Yes, a TV is very clear on what it can or cannot do – No confusion there.
Are you clear on your identity?
Do you know who you are?
 Have you really been intentional and committed to defining who you are?
New moms, now is a good time to get the whole “mom-identity” all figured out. Put those babies’ sleepless nights or growth sprouts feeding sessions to good use and spend time thinking about who you are now as a mom.

Empty nesters, the children are all grown or you are waiting to resume your grandma duties, it is never too late to define yourself.

Of course, moms with children in school (I know they are off for the summer) but make sure you take sometime to figure it out – whether in the bathroom or while the children are playing outside.

You should be able to answer the question of what can I or cannot do. Watch the Mom chat – “Am I just a mom?” here <<<

2. A TV is proud of its brand:

Asides from the obvious brand name plastered on the rim of the TV. When you switch on a TV, the brand name pops up boldly and it even makes its entrance with music.
Are you proud of your brand?
Are you proud of who you have become?
Are you proud of who you see in the mirror or even the thoughts that pop up in your head?
If you are proud of it – embrace it fully;

So you have decided to be a working mom – embrace it;  

you are stay at home mom – love it;

you are a career mom – rock it!

“Be proud as a TV”, ( if there is any phrase like that lol).

3. A TV cannot change who they are:

This is where we are sooooo different from a TV, we can always make a change. If you don’t like your mom-identity, you can make a change to do something about it. It may require a drastic change or just a small one. But we have the ability to make a change. We are not “doomed” like a TV.

So my question to you are:

1. Do you have a brand?
2. Do you love the brand you are projecting?
3. Are you willing to make a change if you need to?

We love helping moms figure this out. You can get on a FREE 30mins call with us – yes, it is completely free!

We would also love to here from you – whether you would like to proudly share your brand with us or you would like to figure it all out. We would love to hear from you.

Book your call here – www.momleader.com/momchat
Decide to be “intentional” and “committed” to your mom- “identity”.
I’ll see you around.
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Nike 
Fellow Momleader
@iamamomleader

 

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Who am I now? Struggling with your mom identity.

You’re a mom, but, WHO ARE YOU?

You’ve read this and either you answered confidently, or you found yourself like a lot of the other moms I have come across, that can’t tenderly, answer that question.

When I am in my beginning coaching sessions with a mom, I will often ask them to describe who they are. A certain mom will answer with a job they used to do, enlighten me on all their hobbies they used to have fun with, what goals they pursued before children, but at the end of the day, none of that is actually who they are now. They struggle to tell me who they are as an individual now being a mom.

Now if you actually stop and ponder, can you answer that question. Not who you were, not where do you want to be, but truly, who are you know?

So much of our identity can be tied to our career, our freedom, our social lives and when motherhood comes, we aren’t quite sure what happened to all of that or where to get it back. Will we ever get “it”back?

Have you lost yourself, mama?

Moms lose themselves. We do. We lose our identity in our children. Sometimes it takes moms a year or two to rediscover themselves and others go for years hiding in baggy clothes, focusing on the best products for the family, putting everyone else’s needs first, before they realize they are in an identity crisis and they’ve lost themselves along the way.

Some moms feel that after having children they are supposed to be the most fulfilled they have ever been and unfortunately, that is just not the case. Understandably, there are some challenges we uniquely face and we have to learn to switch from our single self, our married no kids self, to a woman with children. You are not just a mom. You are your own unique person with her own desires, passions, and likes. Yes, you have them. Believe me.

“I don’t have time”. Well, we can get into “you management”later. Let’s save time saving for another post or better yet, let’s have a chat on the phone. Otherwise…

I encourage you to KNOW YOUR MOM-IDENTITY.

Remember to listen to yourself. This is actually a training that moms will have to start doing again as they put their needs aside and forget completely about themselves. I have seen moms say I will cook that because my son likes this, I will buy that because my husband likes this, but they fail time and time again to consider themselves and actually think and listen to themselves. Start paying attention to what you really want and not just what is expected of you. Do you hear that?

You are not your old self. You are not a future version of what you want to be. You are who you are at this moment. You have the power to change, to have more time, to set goals, and to have likes. Take the opportunity to take yourself on a date and rediscover your mom identity.

Have fun finding out who you are and let me know your process along the way.

Nike

Fellow Momleader

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Be Courageous – Momleader Mondays

BE COURAGEOUS

Happy Monday to all moms, I hope you all had a fantastic Mother’s Day!

Mothers are simply amazing. Being a part of someone else’s life at whatever age is such a great privilege and also a great responsibility!
This responsibility requires a lot of bold steps to be taken on a daily basis. At every moment in our lives as moms, we make decisions that would not only affect us but also the family.

As you know by now, one of our Core Values at Momleader is “Be a Leader”.

Leadership requires wholeness.

A mom needs to be whole to be able to be an influencer.

Wholeness is not perfection, part of wholeness is the ability of a mom to take those required bold steps when making decisions like – what to feed her family, establishing her family’ values and also in the pursuit of her personal goals and dreams.

Moms would be able to achieve this if they are well informed when making these decisions.

This information is what we aim to provide at Momleader.

Being a Courageous Mom is all about following your mom-instincts, making “Informed decisions” plus following through with it.

Share your secret recipe for being a “Courageous Mom?”

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Build Relationships – Momleader Mondays

BUILD RELATIONSHIPS

We all know that children are not born with a manual – We all became moms the moment we were given our new born with no prior training. No matter how prepared we were to be a mom – when the real motherhood kicked in; we found out that we were not prepared! We believe that moms can learn a lot from others.

Having access to other moms (who are either at the same stage they are in or ahead of them); that is having access to moms who are willing to share their experiences, victories and failures with other moms helps greatly on the motherhood journey.

Moms should have access to an exciting and fun learning ground where lifelong relationships are built and nurtured.

Wondering why having mom-friends makes all the difference, here are three of the many reasons it is great to have mom friends:
1. Your own Cheering Squad – they have been there or are currently there so they get it
2. Your Advisors – Still based on experience, they are great for giving their “two cents” which might be exactly what you need
3. Your Personal Reminder – they will remind you that you are a great mom for those hard days. They will also remind you of what you are capable of!
Get a mom tribe or network whether online or off line.

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Be Flexible – Momleader Mondays

BE FLEXIBLE

Tradition has played a very important role in how moms run their homes. The media doesn’t really help to be honest. Perfect pictures on social media put moms under pressure to be “perfect moms”.

There is a major comparison and perception when it comes to what being a ‘great mom’ is. There’s the theory of attachment vs Independence, working mom vs stay at home moms; breastfeeding moms vs bottle fed moms and what to feed your toddler and what not. The question is not “what is right” vs “what is wrong”.

The question is “what is best for your family at this moment?” At momleader, we believe that a mom understands her needs and her family’ needs and she is flexible without judgement or overwhelming mom-guilt.

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