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Life Lessons Personal Development

Be an Intentional Mom

INTENTIONAL –
in·ten·tion·al
/inˈten(t)SH(ə)n(ə)l/
Done on purpose, deliberate

com·mit·ted
/kəˈmidəd/
feeling dedication and loyalty to a cause, activity, or job; wholeheartedly dedicated.

i·den·ti·ty
/ˌīˈden(t)ədē/
The fact of being who or what a person or a thing is.

Interesting how a thing can easily let you know what they are. For example: A TV knows it is a TV – it comes with the big name, and the manual and you can even get great resources online and reviews. A TV cannot wake up tomorrow and say, I’m a radio now or a phone.

There are three things we can learn from the identity of a TV.

1. A TV knows their identity:

Yes, a TV is very clear on what it can or cannot do – No confusion there.
Are you clear on your identity?
Do you know who you are?
 Have you really been intentional and committed to defining who you are?
New moms, now is a good time to get the whole “mom-identity” all figured out. Put those babies’ sleepless nights or growth sprouts feeding sessions to good use and spend time thinking about who you are now as a mom.

Empty nesters, the children are all grown or you are waiting to resume your grandma duties, it is never too late to define yourself.

Of course, moms with children in school (I know they are off for the summer) but make sure you take sometime to figure it out – whether in the bathroom or while the children are playing outside.

You should be able to answer the question of what can I or cannot do. Watch the Mom chat – “Am I just a mom?” here <<<

2. A TV is proud of its brand:

Asides from the obvious brand name plastered on the rim of the TV. When you switch on a TV, the brand name pops up boldly and it even makes its entrance with music.
Are you proud of your brand?
Are you proud of who you have become?
Are you proud of who you see in the mirror or even the thoughts that pop up in your head?
If you are proud of it – embrace it fully;

So you have decided to be a working mom – embrace it;  

you are stay at home mom – love it;

you are a career mom – rock it!

“Be proud as a TV”, ( if there is any phrase like that lol).

3. A TV cannot change who they are:

This is where we are sooooo different from a TV, we can always make a change. If you don’t like your mom-identity, you can make a change to do something about it. It may require a drastic change or just a small one. But we have the ability to make a change. We are not “doomed” like a TV.

So my question to you are:

1. Do you have a brand?
2. Do you love the brand you are projecting?
3. Are you willing to make a change if you need to?

We love helping moms figure this out. You can get on a FREE 30mins call with us – yes, it is completely free!

We would also love to here from you – whether you would like to proudly share your brand with us or you would like to figure it all out. We would love to hear from you.

Book your call here – www.momleader.com/momchat
Decide to be “intentional” and “committed” to your mom- “identity”.
I’ll see you around.
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Nike 
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Life Lessons Personal Development

Who am I now? Struggling with your mom identity.

You’re a mom, but, WHO ARE YOU?

You’ve read this and either you answered confidently, or you found yourself like a lot of the other moms I have come across, that can’t tenderly, answer that question.

When I am in my beginning coaching sessions with a mom, I will often ask them to describe who they are. A certain mom will answer with a job they used to do, enlighten me on all their hobbies they used to have fun with, what goals they pursued before children, but at the end of the day, none of that is actually who they are now. They struggle to tell me who they are as an individual now being a mom.

Now if you actually stop and ponder, can you answer that question. Not who you were, not where do you want to be, but truly, who are you know?

So much of our identity can be tied to our career, our freedom, our social lives and when motherhood comes, we aren’t quite sure what happened to all of that or where to get it back. Will we ever get “it”back?

Have you lost yourself, mama?

Moms lose themselves. We do. We lose our identity in our children. Sometimes it takes moms a year or two to rediscover themselves and others go for years hiding in baggy clothes, focusing on the best products for the family, putting everyone else’s needs first, before they realize they are in an identity crisis and they’ve lost themselves along the way.

Some moms feel that after having children they are supposed to be the most fulfilled they have ever been and unfortunately, that is just not the case. Understandably, there are some challenges we uniquely face and we have to learn to switch from our single self, our married no kids self, to a woman with children. You are not just a mom. You are your own unique person with her own desires, passions, and likes. Yes, you have them. Believe me.

“I don’t have time”. Well, we can get into “you management”later. Let’s save time saving for another post or better yet, let’s have a chat on the phone. Otherwise…

I encourage you to KNOW YOUR MOM-IDENTITY.

Remember to listen to yourself. This is actually a training that moms will have to start doing again as they put their needs aside and forget completely about themselves. I have seen moms say I will cook that because my son likes this, I will buy that because my husband likes this, but they fail time and time again to consider themselves and actually think and listen to themselves. Start paying attention to what you really want and not just what is expected of you. Do you hear that?

You are not your old self. You are not a future version of what you want to be. You are who you are at this moment. You have the power to change, to have more time, to set goals, and to have likes. Take the opportunity to take yourself on a date and rediscover your mom identity.

Have fun finding out who you are and let me know your process along the way.

Nike

Fellow Momleader

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Personal Development

10 Self-Care Ideas for Moms

10 SELF CARE IDEAS FOR MOMS:

We know that self-care is good for you but I think we have a wrong conception of what Self-Care is all about he doesn’t have to be expensive yeah and it doesn’t have to take too much of your time and that’s why in this video I’m going to show you ten (10) Self-Care Ideas that you can do that doesn’t cost you much or it actually costs nothing.

 

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I know that for most moms we’re always running on a very tight budget even on a very tight schedule and so when someone says, “Self-Care”, you’re like – “No I don’t have time for that” and that’s why this video will show you Ten (10) Self-Care ideasthat you can incorporate to your me-time and the good thing about it is thesis 10 things don’t cost anything.

 

Yep! and then it doesn’t take that long plus you can download the Ultimate Self Care List which you can use as a guide any time you want to practice Self-Care. Okay now let’s get to it.

The first one is this “Go To Bed Early”.Yeah, I said “go to bed earlier than your bedtime”. Now all you need to do really is just make sure that the kids actually could to bed earlier than their usual bedtime or if you get someone to watch the kids, just make sure you go to bed maybe 10-15 earlier than your regular time than you sleep and trust me, it changes the game. That 10-15 minutes changes a lot. That is another one out of the 10 Self Care Ideas for Moms.

 

The second one is this “Find A Hobby”. It doesn’t have to be something that’s expensive like I said or time consuming but just look for those little things that you used to love doing that doesn’t cost anything and do that simple.

 

Third one is this “Nap Time” yeah, I know you say that to your kids but how about you incorporate nap time for yourself. I know that the first advice they give any new mom is when the baby sleep you should sleep but how many mom’s actually do that so either you incorporate the nap time when they go for naps or  you take a nap and you let them know – “mommy needs enough” and nap doesn’t have to be for hours, 10-15 minutes nap; you know you could use that and you know it’s interesting if you want to think about actually in my next video I show you mom-hacks for self-care and you get really creative with you enjoying Self-Care. Comment below if you like the word “nap” and just type “nap, nap, nap!”.

 

The next one is this “Read A Book”.Read a book or a magazine or a comic book whatever catches your fancy get a book in the house sit down read it that’s Self-Care right there. You will be lost in that book that you will forget whatever you are going through at that moment and just enjoy yourself that’s it.

 

The next one is “Watch The Sunset Or The Sunrise”.This is very interesting all you need to do is just pull your curtains

very early morning and just look at the Sun rise, yeah, or in the evening and watch the sunset. 10-15 minutes and it’s really, really, good for you. You just take that break and just enjoy everything around you.

 

The next one is “Positive Self-Talk”now you need that now whatever’s going to get you going is up to you. Some people like affirmations,

some people like podcast, some people like you know writing things on the wall whatever gets you going just to do a Positive Self-Talk. What I do is I stand in front of a mirror just to do my Positive Self-Talk five minutes the most I’m done and that Self-Care right there

 

The next one is “Listen To Relaxing Music”now you know what relaxes you. What relaxes you is your thing don’t anybody make you bad about what you’re listening to just make sure you popped in that music about 5-10 minutes to actually listen to that music and feel the music and that would help you to relax now.

 

The next one is and I’m going to say it “Do Nothing”you can actually do nothing it’s okay for you to stop and actually “do nothing” fifteen minutes busy moms it’s okay for you to do nothing. For you to just shut down and I just listen to your inner self for just ten minutes.

 

You can also “Make A Lunch For Yourself”so you know you doing all these meal preps and packing lunch for the kids for the next day. How about you pack your own lunch as well right? that’s another one out of the 10 Self Care Ideas. The truth is most of time, we are so busy during the day that we don’t get anything to eat or we make unhealthy choices. How about when you’re packing their lunch you pack yours and there you have it

 

Tthe last one is this “Exercise” now when you are exercising, I’m not saying you go join the gym or do something straineous. Exercise may be something as easy as going for 10-15 minutes’ walk oh just keep going up and down the stairs now we know there are so many benefits of exercise and that’s Self-Care for you so 5-10 minutes give yourself some fun exercises and actually be in the moment during the exercise that is Self-Care.

 

So there you have it: that’s a list of 10 things you can do that’s not going to cost you anything and doesn’t take that long to get you to care for yourself and PLUS don’t forget you can always download my Ultimate Self Care List that you can use as a guide if you need more ideas like this and don’t worry you need to just watch out for my next video where I talked about the mom-hacks for Self Care Ideas which will help you to get super creative as well as.

 

Remember to like, share, comment and also please do share this your other mom friends just like you out there so that every mom out there would actually enjoy Self-Care and live a better life and have better relationships.

 

Check out 101 Self-Care Ideas for Moms here>>>

I’ll See you around.

 

Nike Famojuro

 

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