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Time Management Habits (Get More Done in a Day!)

Monday, July 8th, 2019

Time Management Habits (Get More Done in a Day!)

Here are 5 Time Management tips and strategies that would help you to be more productive in life/business/home and it also helps you to manage your time.

If you are curious as to how to get more done in the day, check out this productivity tips for entrepreneurs, stay at home moms or work from home moms.

These are great time management habits that would help you plan your day for success and help you get more done in a day!

 

#HOW YOU CAN GET MORE DONE IN A DAY IN YOUR FAMILY LIFE AND BUSINESS!!!

Have a lovely week.

I’ll see around,

Nike Famojuro

Time Management Coach for Moms

Who am I now? Struggling with your mom identity.

Monday, June 3rd, 2019

You’re a mom, but, WHO ARE YOU?

You’ve read this and either you answered confidently, or you found yourself like a lot of the other moms I have come across, that can’t tenderly, answer that question.

When I am in my beginning coaching sessions with a mom, I will often ask them to describe who they are. A certain mom will answer with a job they used to do, enlighten me on all their hobbies they used to have fun with, what goals they pursued before children, but at the end of the day, none of that is actually who they are now. They struggle to tell me who they are as an individual now being a mom.

Now if you actually stop and ponder, can you answer that question. Not who you were, not where do you want to be, but truly, who are you know?

So much of our identity can be tied to our career, our freedom, our social lives and when motherhood comes, we aren’t quite sure what happened to all of that or where to get it back. Will we ever get “it”back?

Have you lost yourself, mama?

Moms lose themselves. We do. We lose our identity in our children. Sometimes it takes moms a year or two to rediscover themselves and others go for years hiding in baggy clothes, focusing on the best products for the family, putting everyone else’s needs first, before they realize they are in an identity crisis and they’ve lost themselves along the way.

Some moms feel that after having children they are supposed to be the most fulfilled they have ever been and unfortunately, that is just not the case. Understandably, there are some challenges we uniquely face and we have to learn to switch from our single self, our married no kids self, to a woman with children. You are not just a mom. You are your own unique person with her own desires, passions, and likes. Yes, you have them. Believe me.

“I don’t have time”. Well, we can get into “you management”later. Let’s save time saving for another post or better yet, let’s have a chat on the phone. Otherwise…

I encourage you to KNOW YOUR MOM-IDENTITY.

Remember to listen to yourself. This is actually a training that moms will have to start doing again as they put their needs aside and forget completely about themselves. I have seen moms say I will cook that because my son likes this, I will buy that because my husband likes this, but they fail time and time again to consider themselves and actually think and listen to themselves. Start paying attention to what you really want and not just what is expected of you. Do you hear that?

You are not your old self. You are not a future version of what you want to be. You are who you are at this moment. You have the power to change, to have more time, to set goals, and to have likes. Take the opportunity to take yourself on a date and rediscover your mom identity.

Have fun finding out who you are and let me know your process along the way.

Nike

Fellow Momleader

Be Courageous – Momleader Mondays

Tuesday, May 14th, 2019

BE COURAGEOUS

Happy Monday to all moms, I hope you all had a fantastic Mother’s Day!

Mothers are simply amazing. Being a part of someone else’s life at whatever age is such a great privilege and also a great responsibility!
This responsibility requires a lot of bold steps to be taken on a daily basis. At every moment in our lives as moms, we make decisions that would not only affect us but also the family.

As you know by now, one of our Core Values at Momleader is “Be a Leader“.

Leadership requires wholeness.

A mom needs to be whole to be able to be an influencer.

Wholeness is not perfection, part of wholeness is the ability of a mom to take those required bold steps when making decisions like – what to feed her family, establishing her family’ values and also in the pursuit of her personal goals and dreams.

Moms would be able to achieve this if they are well informed when making these decisions.

This information is what we aim to provide at Momleader.

Being a Courageous Mom is all about following your mom-instincts, making “Informed decisions” plus following through with it.

Share your secret recipe for being a “Courageous Mom?”

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Build Relationships – Momleader Mondays

Monday, May 6th, 2019

BUILD RELATIONSHIPS

We all know that children are not born with a manual – We all became moms the moment we were given our new born with no prior training. No matter how prepared we were to be a mom – when the real motherhood kicked in; we found out that we were not prepared! We believe that moms can learn a lot from others.

Having access to other moms (who are either at the same stage they are in or ahead of them); that is having access to moms who are willing to share their experiences, victories and failures with other moms helps greatly on the motherhood journey.

Moms should have access to an exciting and fun learning ground where lifelong relationships are built and nurtured.

Wondering why having mom-friends makes all the difference, here are three of the many reasons it is great to have mom friends:
1. Your own Cheering Squad – they have been there or are currently there so they get it
2. Your Advisors – Still based on experience, they are great for giving their “two cents” which might be exactly what you need
3. Your Personal Reminder – they will remind you that you are a great mom for those hard days. They will also remind you of what you are capable of!
Get a mom tribe or network whether online or off line.

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Be Flexible – Momleader Mondays

Monday, April 29th, 2019

BE FLEXIBLE

Tradition has played a very important role in how moms run their homes. The media doesn’t really help to be honest. Perfect pictures on social media put moms under pressure to be “perfect moms”.

There is a major comparison and perception when it comes to what being a ‘great mom’ is. There’s the theory of attachment vs Independence, working mom vs stay at home moms; breastfeeding moms vs bottle fed moms and what to feed your toddler and what not. The question is not “what is right” vs “what is wrong”.

The question is “what is best for your family at this moment?” At momleader, we believe that a mom understands her needs and her family’ needs and she is flexible without judgement or overwhelming mom-guilt.

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Have balance – Momleader Mondays

Monday, April 22nd, 2019

BALANCE

Moms juggle a lot. We know this because we ARE moms.

A Momleader understands balance because she has access to resources, lessons, hacks and tips that will help her have a balanced life at home, work, business or in the community. A momleader understands the importance of taking care and nurturing herself and knowing her priorities. When your family and goals are set, your intent of the day is known. We coach moms on how to be structured in aligning their goals and setting out to achieve them however, sometimes, that isn’t always possible and life happens. You can plan 10 things to do in a day and neither of them get done because your child is sick, or you are going through some fussy toddler times, or things just aren’t working for that day. We all know that children are not born with a manual – We all became moms the moment we were given our new born with no prior training. No matter how prepared we were to be a mom – when the real motherhood kicked in; we found out that we were not prepared!

We believe moms should be willing to take risks as well. Not everything tried and true will work for you! Remember that. You have to try new things and adjust – just because it didn’t work for your children once, try, try again! As we’ve been learning, they change their mind!

A momleader to us picks her battles, is organised, is able to adjust and has a positive mental attitude. Balance is key. You wanted to workout in the morning and your children wouldn’t let you because they were fighting and you were running late so you couldn’t get to the groceries. Stop and reflect. You still have the rest of the day to tackle these things. Put the time constraint and “time pressure” off of you and work in task based mode or in time blocks. Did you work out at all today even if it was in the evening? Did you end up going for a walk with the children as a flexible compromise instead of doing your normal gym routine? Did you throw in the towel today on everything because mentally you just weren’t “on”? Trust me moms. We know what you go through. Don’t mom-guilt yourself! We can be our biggest enemies. The biggest things I tell my clients is give yourself the flexibility to be human as well. For instance, you are allowed to say “I’m busy”. (I’m busy doing nothing and no I don’t want to get together with anyone because I am still in my pj’s and I don’t really want to clean my house…..) Thats ok! Don’t guilt yourself on it. Sometimes we can stay in that realm of having to get everything done but we need to be flexible in getting things done when we can – for example, I type this post as my child is in the bath. Another example is have some mental down time by showing up to your kid’s school 10 min early. There are ways to allow yourself some freedom of the task list. You just need to know where to bend and how to be flexible.

What’s really important to us is that our mom leaders understand their personal needs and their family’ needs and that they are flexible without judgement or overwhelming mom-guilt. So, talk to us. What’s your biggest challenge in achieving proper balance?

>>>>>  Have Balance – Momleader Mondays

International Women’ Day – Salute to all moms!

Friday, March 8th, 2019

SALUTE TO MOMS

“I need you to stop doing that right now, am I clear?!?”


That was me shouting out those words to my high-spirited-four-year-old daughter. In that moment, I realised that I sounded like my mom – Ooops!

 

Today is March 8th, 2019 – International Women’ Day. If you ask me who do I want to celebrate today – “MY MOM!”

 

WHY?!?!

 

Pretty simple, I love her of-course!

Funny is as a little girl, I had an endless list of things she could do differently and how she should have done it.

From wondering why she wouldn’t want me to indulge in certain things to wondering why I can’t watch TV after a certain time or eat what I wanted and when… My list was endless!

 

One minute, she was the best mom in the world, the next she wasn’t!

 

Being a mom myself (of two beautiful girls). I have come to realize that most of the things my mom did was because she was a mom!

When I was much younger, my mom was working full time, running her own business and raising 5 High spirited children:

 

Wow, what an amazing woman!

 

When I had my baby, I was over the moon. The moment I left the hospital with my bundle of joy – the first question I asked was:

 

“How did my mom do this?!?”

 

So today, this International Women’ Day – My respect goes out to my mom – and in fact all women out there.

Being a mom made me realize that women are more poweful than we want to think or even accept!

We have the power to do amazing things!

Much respect to all WOMEN!!!

For all moms out there – don’t forget to take some time for yourself – check my blogpost here >>>>on self care!

You are doing a great job! here are also some ideas on how you can show love to your children here >>>

 

I know you are not appreciated (as such!) – but Happy International Women’ Day

 

Much respect, SALUTE!!!

 

Nike Famojuro

 

How To Improve Your Focus As A Mom-preneur

Friday, March 1st, 2019

FOCUS! FOCUS!! FOCUS!!!

“I can remember the lyrics to songs from 1992,

I can remember all the things my husband did wrong;

but I can’t remember where I put my keys!”

– Unknown

Being a Mom-Prenuer – Mom of two lil ones and Enterprenuer that works from home (literally anywhere in the home: from the kitchen to the bathroom!lol). I am usually asked this:

“Nike, How do you stay focussed?”

 

Today, I share 7 of my secrests to staying foccussed as an enterprenur-mom:

1. Prioritze your life:

We all have an endless to-do list! We know how overwhelming it can be when we are distracted or taken away from our current task. The distraction may be from well-meaning friends, our children or family members. To improve my focus, I have embraced the power of “NO” or “NOT RIGHT NOW”.

 

2. Nourish your concentration:

Coffee is great but too much coffee can be counter-productive – I’ve mentioned this is my previous post on Mom-exercise. I noticed that being a Mom-prenuer sometimes has an adverse effect on my food choices. Eating Vegetables, fruits (especially blueberries) and using Supplements (Such as Omega-3) helps boost focus.

 

3. Create Time blocks:

I love this concept of “Time blocks” – I teach this to moms in my Take Charge coaching program. This is a concept that allows me to group tasks into “Time – blocks”. It allows me to concentrate on that particular task and most importantly, because I have a rough idea of how long it will take to carry out the task within a particular Time – block, I can easily schedule when it will work or if my circumstance will allow each “Time-block”.

 

4. Don’t give in to overwhelm:

Overwhelm is the killer of focus. I ensure that I rid myself of things, circumstances that would make me feel overwhelmed. Having a To -Do list helps greatly because not only does it make me stay focussed, it also allows me to do a brain dump and I can clearly see what needs to be done!

 

5. Self care:

Take a Break. Schedule this! I can’t over stress this. Check out my post on Self Care Ideas for Ideas. When I see that I am loosing focus, I detach myself to care for myself.

 

6. Tackle the biggest task first:

I find that when I have a big task on my to do, it affects why concentration. I am constantly thinking about that big task and I dot focus on the task Im currently carrying out. To overcome this, I try as much as possible to deal with all my big tasks first. That way, I feel accomplished throughout the day and I also banish that “dreadful” feeling of a Pending big task!

7. Have a morning routine:

This is actually one of the most important point. The way I start my day sets the tone for my day. The things I do in the morning are: Pray, Meditate, Stretch/Exercise and then start my day. My mantra is this: “Don’t let your emails rule your life”

I love learning, please let me know if you have any other suggestions.

I’ll see you around

Nike

 

10 Simple Romantic Valentine Ideas for Moms

Friday, February 15th, 2019

Valentine Ideas for Moms for the Valentine’ Weekend.

“Everyone says that you fall in love once that is not TRUE

because every time when I see you,

I fall in love with you all over again”

– Unknown

 

Valentine is here!

Love is in the air!

 

 

Valentine is always a time when the sale of roses, chocolates and cards are at their peak. I find that most Valentines, people lack Valentine ideas for moms; so moms are given gifts they don’t really like. Gifts like: Fake flowers, gym membership, sugar free candy, self help books or ill fitting lingeries or night dress.

 

Here are a list of 10 Simple Romantic Valentine ideas for Moms, especially new moms or moms with little ones.

Moms, get inspired with this list and pass it one to your Valentine!

 

1. Sleep in:

Weekends can be a chore; instead of being up and running around to get everyone ready; how about taking time off. You can also go into work later in the day to have some time to sleep-in on Valentine’s Weekend.

 

2. Make Breakfast together:

Making breakfast with your Valentine is a great way to spend Valentine. Especially if it is just you two 😉

 

3. Take Bubble Bath:

Interesting how most  moms take a bath because they think they deserve it. Having a bath doesn’t have to be a treat! It can be something you do everyday. If you still feel it is a treat, here’s a Valentine Idea for moms -“Valentine’s Weekend Bubble Bath”. Treat yourself to some nice scents, candles, fresh flowers, great music – all the works.

 

4. Watch a Romantic Movie together:

There’s nothing as romantic as watching a romantic goofy valentine movie with your Valentine. I mean uninterrupted. If you have to get someone to watch the kids, take the time off. You can either watch the movie in your living room or go out to the movies.

 

5. Dress up and go somewhere nice:

Dressing up brings up a great feeling. It is a good time to wear that “One-day-I-will-wear-you” dress. Dress up and go somewhere really nice. Visit those “one-day-I-will-visit” restaurant.

 

6. Listen to some love music together:

Put on some candles, set in the mood (sit by the fire place) and listen to some Love music together. Oldies does it for me – it brings up some really great memories.

 

7. Massage:
Either do a DIY – you can buy the oils from a local store near you, have some candles, good music and voila! Or you can treat your partner to a massage, pedicure or manicure appointment

 

8. Stay up Late:

Nothing beats staying up late…no more to be said here!

 

9. Create a List of “why you love your partner”:

You can either send a romantic text messages to your partner or you can write it out in a card. As long as those words are from your heart.

 

10. A night off from Bedtime Routine:

The chore of Bedtime routine can be exhausting. You either have the kids do a sleep-over or you get the nanny to put them to sleep or you get your partner to do it. Skipping this routine is such a great Valentine treat for  moms.

 

Dont forget to love yourself – Check this post on Self Care: 

Watch my YouTube Video on Self-care here: www.youtu.be/bhqhZdgYw3M

 

Happy Valentines to all Moms out there!

 

Chao!

 

I’ll See you around

 

Nike Famojuro

Fellow MomLeader

@iamamomleader

Seven Practical Ways You Can Show Love To Your Children

Friday, February 1st, 2019

SEVEN PRACTICAL WAYS YOU CAN SHOW LOVE TO YOUR CHILDREN

I get this most times from Moms in my MomLeader Coaching Programs.
I often ask this question: “Do you show love to your children, that is; 
You love your children but do they know that?”

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Pretty ironic right?!?

Here are Seven (7)n Practical Ways You Can Show Love To Your Child.

PS: It is NEVER to late or too early to start.

1. TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM:
This seems like a no-brainer right!?

Life can get busy that all we communicate to our children is what they are not doing right or their schedules, what is expected of them etc.

We forget at times to tell them what they need to hear (even though the child will not admit it! lol).

They need to hear it from you that you love them…PERIOD!…Say it!

 

2. PRAISE THEM:

This is kind of tied in with you telling your child you love them, that is, how you show love to your children.

Praising them is something you have to do consciously especially when you are going through difficult times with your child. Because of moms “nurturer” nature, we often only see EVERYTHING that needs to be fixed and we NEGLECT the things that are going on well. Find the good in your child and praise them for it

 

3. LISTEN TO YOUR CHILD;

9 out of 10, the biggest issue we had with our parents was that they didn’t listen to us…so Mommas, why aren’t  we listening to our children?

Always adopt this Steve Covey Effective Listening style which is:

“Seek first to Understand, then to be Understood”.

That is, concentrate on what is being said; rather concentrating on your response.

 

4. BE PRESENT:

Doing more than one task at once seems great because it allows us to get so many things done in a limited amount of time.

The disadvantage is that we tend not to be present while carrying a task.

When spending time with your child, be present.

All you need to do is create a time block for your child, with no interruption and with you being fully present.

This is definitely important if you want to show love to your children.

 

5. LAX THE RULES ONCE IN A WHILE:
It is awesome to have a schedule with the children especially when dealing with younger children.

But every now and then, it is okay to lax the rules.

How about if they stay up  late on a Friday night and watch a goofy movie with you or eat their breakfast in bed on Saturday morning…whatever you know they would like, lax the rules and watch their faces light up…Priceless!

 

6. SURPRISE THEM:

Everyone loves a good surprise – not just on Birthdays!

But remember, it is about them and not about you; so bear that in mind when choosing either what to give them or  what activity to do.

Do your research and NAIL it!

 

7. CREATE FAMILY TIME:

This concept is super important because it creates and nurtures closeness between family especially siblings. It is just like how companies have Team building programs with their staff members to encourage Team Dynamics.

By taking time off and being diligent with Family Time will not only create great Team Dynamics with your children, it is also a way you can show your family that you love them!

 

There you have it, 7 Practical Ways You Can Show Love to Your Child…if you want more, you can download the 37 Practical Ways You Can Show Love To Your Child here >> >

Remember, to check out 101-self-care-ideas-for-moms

Keep Loving Mommas,

 

I’ll see you around.

 

Nike Famojuro

Fellow MomLeader