This is the Mindset of a Time Efficient Mom – see how she gets things done in a day. Learn how to get things done when you don’t feel like it. Beat Procrastination and get more productive and organized. These are great tips whether you are stay at home mom working or you want to create a routine!
I share 5 tips that would help you create time management strategies that work.
You’ve read this and either you answered confidently, or you found yourself like a lot of the other moms I have come across, that can’t tenderly, answer that question.
When I am in my beginning coaching sessions with a mom, I will often ask them to describe who they are. A certain mom will answer with a job they used to do, enlighten me on all their hobbies they used to have fun with, what goals they pursued before children, but at the end of the day, none of that is actually who they are now. They struggle to tell me who they are as an individual now being a mom.
Now if you actually stop and ponder, can you answer that question. Not who you were, not where do you want to be, but truly, who are you know?
So much of our identity can be tied to our career, our freedom, our social lives and when motherhood comes, we aren’t quite sure what happened to all of that or where to get it back. Will we ever get “it”back?
Have you lost yourself, mama?
Moms lose themselves. We do. We lose our identity in our children. Sometimes it takes moms a year or two to rediscover themselves and others go for years hiding in baggy clothes, focusing on the best products for the family, putting everyone else’s needs first, before they realize they are in an identity crisis and they’ve lost themselves along the way.
Some moms feel that after having children they are supposed to be the most fulfilled they have ever been and unfortunately, that is just not the case. Understandably, there are some challenges we uniquely face and we have to learn to switch from our single self, our married no kids self, to a woman with children. You are not just a mom. You are your own unique person with her own desires, passions, and likes. Yes, you have them. Believe me.
“I don’t have time”. Well, we can get into “you management”later. Let’s save time saving for another post or better yet, let’s have a chat on the phone. Otherwise…
I encourage you to KNOW YOUR MOM-IDENTITY.
Remember to listen to yourself. This is actually a training that moms will have to start doing again as they put their needs aside and forget completely about themselves. I have seen moms say I will cook that because my son likes this, I will buy that because my husband likes this, but they fail time and time again to consider themselves and actually think and listen to themselves. Start paying attention to what you really want and not just what is expected of you. Do you hear that?
You are not your old self. You are not a future version of what you want to be. You are who you are at this moment. You have the power to change, to have more time, to set goals, and to have likes. Take the opportunity to take yourself on a date and rediscover your mom identity.
Have fun finding out who you are and let me know your process along the way.
EFFECTIVE TO DO LIST THAT WORKS// SIMPLE STEPS TO FOLLOW BEFORE YOU CREATE YOUR TO DO LIST
Your Productivity depends on an effective to do list. Time management is more like your calendar management. As a mom whether stay at home mom, working mom or work from moms, to do lists are a must-have which will help you to stay on track and manage your time well.
Happy Monday to all moms, I hope you all had a fantastic Mother’s Day!
Mothers are simply amazing. Being a part of someone else’s life at whatever age is such a great privilege and also a great responsibility!
This responsibility requires a lot of bold steps to be taken on a daily basis. At every moment in our lives as moms, we make decisions that would not only affect us but also the family.
As you know by now, one of our Core Values at Momleader is “Be a Leader“.
Leadership requires wholeness.
A mom needs to be whole to be able to be an influencer.
Wholeness is not perfection, part of wholeness is the ability of a mom to take those required bold steps when making decisions like – what to feed her family, establishing her family’ values and also in the pursuit of her personal goals and dreams.
Moms would be able to achieve this if they are well informedwhen making these decisions.
This information is what we aim to provide at Momleader.
Being a Courageous Mom is all about following your mom-instincts, making “Informed decisions” plus following through with it.
Share your secret recipe for being a “Courageous Mom?”
Moms juggle a lot. We know this because we ARE moms.
A Momleader understands balance because she has access to resources, lessons, hacks and tips that will help her have a balanced life at home, work, business or in the community. A momleader understands the importance of taking care and nurturing herself and knowing her priorities. When your family and goals are set, your intent of the day is known. We coach moms on how to be structured in aligning their goals and setting out to achieve them however, sometimes, that isn’t always possible and life happens. You can plan 10 things to do in a day and neither of them get done because your child is sick, or you are going through some fussy toddler times, or things just aren’t working for that day. We all know that children are not born with a manual – We all became moms the moment we were given our new born with no prior training. No matter how prepared we were to be a mom – when the real motherhood kicked in; we found out that we were not prepared!
We believe moms should be willing to take risks as well. Not everything tried and true will work for you! Remember that. You have to try new things and adjust – just because it didn’t work for your children once, try, try again! As we’ve been learning, they change their mind!
A momleader to us picks her battles, is organised, is able to adjust and has a positive mental attitude. Balance is key. You wanted to workout in the morning and your children wouldn’t let you because they were fighting and you were running late so you couldn’t get to the groceries. Stop and reflect. You still have the rest of the day to tackle these things. Put the time constraint and “time pressure” off of you and work in task based mode or in time blocks. Did you work out at all today even if it was in the evening? Did you end up going for a walk with the children as a flexible compromise instead of doing your normal gym routine? Did you throw in the towel today on everything because mentally you just weren’t “on”? Trust me moms. We know what you go through. Don’t mom-guilt yourself! We can be our biggest enemies. The biggest things I tell my clients is give yourself the flexibility to be human as well. For instance, you are allowed to say “I’m busy”. (I’m busy doing nothing and no I don’t want to get together with anyone because I am still in my pj’s and I don’t really want to clean my house…..) Thats ok! Don’t guilt yourself on it. Sometimes we can stay in that realm of having to get everything done but we need to be flexible in getting things done when we can – for example, I type this post as my child is in the bath. Another example is have some mental down time by showing up to your kid’s school 10 min early. There are ways to allow yourself some freedom of the task list. You just need to know where to bend and how to be flexible.
What’s really important to us is that our mom leaders understand their personal needs and their family’ needs and that they are flexible without judgement or overwhelming mom-guilt. So, talk to us. What’s your biggest challenge in achieving proper balance?
Happy Monday to all our moms! We are so excited to introduce to you our Momleader Mondays – a series of videos that discuss our core values and the heart of who we are.
Over the coming weeks, we will be rolling out what drives us and what matters to us most at Momleader. Not only are we hoping to give you insight into who we are and what we believe in, but we also have some major changes brewing. Here at MomLeader, we have been working tirelessly to bring you the very best resources and platform to ensure your success at home, work, business and daily life.
So, Join us! See you next Monday as we discuss our very first core value, embark on some new changes with you, and share in our identity.
I can remember all the things my husband did wrong;
but I can’t remember where I put my keys!”
Being a Mom-Prenuer – Mom of two lil ones and Enterprenuer that works from home (literally anywhere in the home: from the kitchen to the bathroom!lol). I am usually asked this:
“Nike, How do you stay focussed?”
Today, I share 7 of my secrests to staying foccussed as an enterprenur-mom:
1. Prioritze your life:
We all have an endless to-do list! We know how overwhelming it can be when we are distracted or taken away from our current task. The distraction may be from well-meaning friends, our children or family members. To improve my focus, I have embraced the power of “NO” or “NOT RIGHT NOW”.
2. Nourish your concentration:
Coffee is great but too much coffee can be counter-productive – I’ve mentioned this is my previous post on Mom-exercise. I noticed that being a Mom-prenuer sometimes has an adverse effect on my food choices. Eating Vegetables, fruits (especially blueberries) and using Supplements (Such as Omega-3) helps boost focus.
3. Create Time blocks:
I love this concept of “Time blocks” – I teach this to moms in my Take Charge coaching program. This is a concept that allows me to group tasks into “Time – blocks”. It allows me to concentrate on that particular task and most importantly, because I have a rough idea of how long it will take to carry out the task within a particular Time – block, I can easily schedule when it will work or if my circumstance will allow each “Time-block”.
4. Don’t give in to overwhelm:
Overwhelm is the killer of focus. I ensure that I rid myself of things, circumstances that would make me feel overwhelmed. Having a To -Do list helps greatly because not only does it make me stay focussed, it also allows me to do a brain dump and I can clearly see what needs to be done!
I find that when I have a big task on my to do, it affects why concentration. I am constantly thinking about that big task and I dot focus on the task Im currently carrying out. To overcome this, I try as much as possible to deal with all my big tasks first. That way, I feel accomplished throughout the day and I also banish that “dreadful” feeling of a Pending big task!
7. Have a morning routine:
This is actually one of the most important point. The way I start my day sets the tone for my day. The things I do in the morning are: Pray, Meditate, Stretch/Exercise and then start my day. My mantra is this: “Don’t let your emails rule your life”
I love learning, please let me know if you have any other suggestions.
“Mom-exercise” is a form of exercising for moms. Before I explain what “M0m-exercise” is, I want to get you really interested by showing you the benefits of exercising.
I know that moms especially Stay At Home Moms (after cleaning, doing the dishes, doing school runs and getting dinner ready); the last thing you want to do is “exercise”. But trust me on this one, MomLeaders, there are great benefits of “mom-exercising” – asides from the all too known benefit of weight loss:
Helps you feel happier:
Endorphins are your best friends. They are hormones that is known to produce positive feelings and reduce the perception of pain. Exercising increases the production of hormones called endorphins, which are known to help make you feel happier
Being at home can be a bit lonely/frustrating and the mind can really play games at times. Plus having to talk to toddlers all day or doing baby talk with newborns doesn’t help at times. Add in your female hormones and you will have a cocktail of a roller-coaster mood. Plus, you have to battle with mom-guilt as well.
Here’s the big one: you still have to care for your children and patiently answer their numerous questions, respond to their never ending requests without losing it.
I believe you will agree with me when I say that having all the help you can with your mood will really help.
Increases energy levels:
This is quite ironic because you would think exercising will use up all your energy. Yes! Maybe! whilst exercising and maybe a few minutes after. Exercise can improve energy levels because it strengthens the circulation and your heart muscle.This means more energy to keep up with your children and their needs.
Helps with skin health:
By increasing blood flow, exercise helps nourish skin cells and keep them vital. We all need that glow, right?!?
Helps with brain health:
The benefits of exercise come directly from its ability to reduce insulin resistance, reduce inflammation, and stimulate the release of growth factors—chemicals in the brain that affect the health, abundance, survival and growth of brain cells. (according to the Harvard Health Publishing).
I guess we can all say bye to “mommy brain”!
Helps with relaxation and sleeping:
All those sleepless nights with a newborn, sometimes can alter our sleeping pattern. Exercise can help with that – awesome!
What then is “Mom-exercise”?
It is a form of exercise designed specially for moms. Mom-exercise is a form of workout that suits moms schedule and way of life. It doesn’t have to be intense. Below are a list of Mom-exercises; pick the one that works best with you and have fun with it.
30 mins walk with the lil one in the stroller
Going up and down your stairs a couple of times (10x at a time)
Dancing time with the kiddos
Chair dips or squats
Step ups using the stairs
Whatever works for you, the most important thing is to make sure you schedule at least a 15 mins block for exercise (at least 3-5 times a week).