This is the Mindset of a Time Efficient Mom – see how she gets things done in a day. Learn how to get things done when you don’t feel like it. Beat Procrastination and get more productive and organized. These are great tips whether you are stay at home mom working or you want to create a routine!
I share 5 tips that would help you create time management strategies that work.
We all know that children are not born with a manual – We all became moms the moment we were given our new born with no prior training. No matter how prepared we were to be a mom – when the real motherhood kicked in; we found out that we were not prepared! We believe that moms can learn a lot from others.
Having access to other moms (who are either at the same stage they are in or ahead of them); that is having access to moms who are willing to share their experiences, victories and failures with other moms helps greatly on the motherhood journey.
Moms should have access to an exciting and fun learning ground where lifelong relationships are built and nurtured.
Wondering why having mom-friends makes all the difference, here are three of the many reasons it is great to have mom friends:
1. Your own Cheering Squad – they have been there or are currently there so they get it
2. Your Advisors – Still based on experience, they are great for giving their “two cents” which might be exactly what you need
3. Your Personal Reminder – they will remind you that you are a great mom for those hard days. They will also remind you of what you are capable of!
Get a mom tribe or network whether online or off line.
We know that self-care is good for you but I think we have a wrong conception of what Self-Care is all about he doesn’t have to be expensive yeah and it doesn’t have to take too much of your time and that’s why in this video I’m going to show you ten (10) Self-Care Ideas that you can do that doesn’t cost you much or it actually costs nothing.
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I know that for most moms we’re always running on a very tight budget even on a very tight schedule and so when someone says, “Self-Care”, you’re like – “No I don’t have time for that” and that’s why this video will show you Ten (10) Self-Care ideasthat you can incorporate to your me-time and the good thing about it is thesis 10 things don’t cost anything.
Yep! and then it doesn’t take that long plus you can download the Ultimate Self Care List which you can use as a guide any time you want to practice Self-Care. Okay now let’s get to it.
The first one is this “Go To Bed Early”.Yeah, I said “go to bed earlier than your bedtime”. Now all you need to do really is just make sure that the kids actually could to bed earlier than their usual bedtime or if you get someone to watch the kids, just make sure you go to bed maybe 10-15 earlier than your regular time than you sleep and trust me, it changes the game. That 10-15 minutes changes a lot. That is another one out of the 10 Self Care Ideas for Moms.
The second one is this “Find A Hobby“. It doesn’t have to be something that’s expensive like I said or time consuming but just look for those little things that you used to love doing that doesn’t cost anything and do that simple.
Third one is this “Nap Time” yeah, I know you say that to your kids but how about you incorporate nap time for yourself. I know that the first advice they give any new mom is when the baby sleep you should sleep but how many mom’s actually do that so either you incorporate the nap time when they go for naps or you take a nap and you let them know – “mommy needs enough” and nap doesn’t have to be for hours, 10-15 minutes nap; you know you could use that and you know it’s interesting if you want to think about actually in my next video I show you mom-hacks for self-care and you get really creative with you enjoying Self-Care. Comment below if you like the word “nap” and just type “nap, nap, nap!”.
The next one is this “Read A Book”.Read a book or a magazine or a comic book whatever catches your fancy get a book in the house sit down read it that’s Self-Care right there. You will be lost in that book that you will forget whatever you are going through at that moment and just enjoy yourself that’s it.
The next one is “Watch The Sunset Or The Sunrise”.This is very interesting all you need to do is just pull your curtains
very early morning and just look at the Sun rise, yeah, or in the evening and watch the sunset. 10-15 minutes and it’s really, really, good for you. You just take that break and just enjoy everything around you.
The next one is “Positive Self-Talk”now you need that now whatever’s going to get you going is up to you. Some people like affirmations,
some people like podcast, some people like you know writing things on the wall whatever gets you going just to do a Positive Self-Talk. What I do is I stand in front of a mirror just to do my Positive Self-Talk five minutes the most I’m done and that Self-Care right there
The next one is “Listen To Relaxing Music”now you know what relaxes you. What relaxes you is your thing don’t anybody make you bad about what you’re listening to just make sure you popped in that music about 5-10 minutes to actually listen to that music and feel the music and that would help you to relax now.
The next one is and I’m going to say it “Do Nothing”you can actually do nothing it’s okay for you to stop and actually “do nothing” fifteen minutes busy moms it’s okay for you to do nothing. For you to just shut down and I just listen to your inner self for just ten minutes.
You can also “Make A Lunch For Yourself”so you know you doing all these meal preps and packing lunch for the kids for the next day. How about you pack your own lunch as well right? that’s another one out of the 10 Self Care Ideas. The truth is most of time, we are so busy during the day that we don’t get anything to eat or we make unhealthy choices. How about when you’re packing their lunch you pack yours and there you have it
Tthe last one is this “Exercise” now when you are exercising, I’m not saying you go join the gym or do something straineous. Exercise may be something as easy as going for 10-15 minutes’ walk oh just keep going up and down the stairs now we know there are so many benefits of exercise and that’s Self-Care for you so 5-10 minutes give yourself some fun exercises and actually be in the moment during the exercise that is Self-Care.
So there you have it: that’s a list of 10 things you can do that’s not going to cost you anything and doesn’t take that long to get you to care for yourself and PLUS don’t forget you can always download my Ultimate Self Care List that you can use as a guide if you need more ideas like this and don’t worry you need to just watch out for my next video where I talked about the mom-hacks for Self Care Ideas which will help you to get super creative as well as.
Remember to like, share, comment and also please do share this your other mom friends just like you out there so that every mom out there would actually enjoy Self-Care and live a better life and have better relationships.
SEVEN PRACTICAL WAYS YOU CAN SHOW LOVE TO YOUR CHILDREN
I get this most times from Moms in my MomLeader Coaching Programs.
I often ask this question: “Do you show love to your children, that is; You love your children but do they know that?”
Pretty ironic right?!?
Here are Seven (7)n Practical Ways You Can Show Love To Your Child.
PS: It is NEVER to late or too early to start.
1. TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM: This seems like a no-brainer right!?
Life can get busy that all we communicate to our children is what they are not doing right or their schedules, what is expected of them etc.
We forget at times to tell them what they need to hear (even though the child will not admit it! lol).
They need to hear it from you that you love them…PERIOD!…Say it!
2. PRAISE THEM:
This is kind of tied in with you telling your child you love them, that is, how you show love to your children.
Praising them is something you have to do consciously especially when you are going through difficult times with your child. Because of moms “nurturer” nature, we often only see EVERYTHING that needs to be fixed and we NEGLECT the things that are going on well. Find the good in your child and praise them for it
3. LISTEN TO YOUR CHILD;
9 out of 10, the biggest issue we had with our parents was that they didn’t listen to us…so Mommas, why aren’t we listening to our children?
Always adopt this Steve Covey Effective Listening style which is:
“Seek first to Understand, then to be Understood”.
That is, concentrate on what is being said; rather concentrating on your response.
4. BE PRESENT:
Doing more than one task at once seems great because it allows us to get so many things done in a limited amount of time.
The disadvantage is that we tend not to be present while carrying a task.
When spending time with your child, be present.
All you need to do is create a time block for your child, with no interruption and with you being fully present.
This is definitely important if you want to show love to your children.
5. LAX THE RULES ONCE IN A WHILE: It is awesome to have a schedule with the children especially when dealing with younger children.
But every now and then, it is okay to lax the rules.
How about if they stay up late on a Friday night and watch a goofy movie with you or eat their breakfast in bed on Saturday morning…whatever you know they would like, lax the rules and watch their faces light up…Priceless!
6. SURPRISE THEM:
Everyone loves a good surprise – not just on Birthdays!
But remember, it is about them and not about you; so bear that in mind when choosing either what to give them or what activity to do.
Do your research and NAIL it!
7. CREATE FAMILY TIME:
This concept is super important because it creates and nurtures closeness between family especially siblings. It is just like how companies have Team building programs with their staff members to encourage Team Dynamics.
By taking time off and being diligent with Family Time will not only create great Team Dynamics with your children, it is also a way you can show your family that you love them!
She usually doesn’t maintain eye contact and answer shyly, “I stay at home with the kids”
Or she gives a very nervous laugh and say, “The kids are my job”.
I have been a Stay at Home mom myself and I have done the same no doubt (too many times than I count).
Even now as a work from home mom, if asked, “What do I do?” I am so quick to talk about the work I do from home – I’m a Mom-coach as opposed to claiming my place as a Stay At home mom who also runs MomLeader.
My question has always been, “Why do I feel like the work of a Stay At Home Mom cannot be considered as a job?”
I know that I cannot put a price on motherhood but then I cannot ignore all the work that goes into staying at home with the children. From cooking to cleaning to school runs to mitigating fights to diffusing temper tantrums – you name it!
You are so busy throughout the day yet at the end of the day it looks like you haven’t done much!
Truth be told, not every woman can survive being a Stay At Home Mom. Did you know that according to mother.ly and salary.com, the salary of a Stay At Home Mom for 2018 was estimated to be $162,581 per year. This was over $5000 increase from what it was in 2017!
Acoording to Salary.com, Jobs that reflected a day in the life of a Mom was used to achieve this estimated salary.
Example of the hybrid roles were (I picked out just a handful that jumped at me) :
Day Care Centre Teacher
I can see why? I’m sure you can see why too!
These roles were put into consideration when I was developing my Coaching program: MomLeader Incubator – a program for moms who want to start their dream business. I know quite well that Moms wear multiple hats.
My advice is that the next time you are asked, “What do you do?”
Don’t just say that “I’m just a Stay At Home Mom” – No you are not “JUST!”
Being a Stat At home Mom is a respectable role; an high paying role at that!!!!
You either respond with pride that: “You are a Stay At Home Mom” or better still, you can give whoever is asking the question a run down of the hybrid roles above 🙂
If you are curious, you can calculate your estimated salary as a Stay At Home Mom here. Just plug in your details to see what your salary would have been.
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Feeling STUCK as to where to start with setting your mom-goals for the New year!?!
I know the end of the year is when we make all these resolutions, but to be honest, you can start afresh at any time – any month, any day of the week and any time of the day. You can even decide to change from this very moment!!!
I understand that as moms, we can be super busy with the end of year activities and can neglect setting our mom-goals.
So, here are Five (5) Areas you need to consider when setting goals. I even added inspiring examples of mom-goals you can set in those areas – YES, you are welcome.
Have a morning routine
Get More Sleep
Find an Outlet/Hobby
See your children the way they are
Make New Friends
Challenge yourself more
Join a gym or start an home exercise program
Eat more vegetables and fruits
Meal Prep every weekend
Make homemade snacks
Drink 2L of water everyday
Buy less takeaways
Keep Vital signs in the healthy range
Have a Budget
Get completely out of debt
Create an emergency fund
Buy a Home
Pay off Loans
Plan for large purchases
Save for Retirement
Increase your investment portfolio
Have multiple streams of income
Live in the Moment
Loose your temper less
Leave your work at work
Give more compliments
Appreciate your children more
Spend more time with your partner
Have “cell-phone free” conversations
Live life through your children’s eye
See your children they way they are
Go to Church regularly
Be more mindful
Help others more
These are five areas with inspiring mom-goals you can set. Please note that these examples are not specific; they are just a guide. If you are keen to set goals that would work – check out this MomLeader VIdeo- https://bit.ly/2GlM41K..
“Mom-exercise” is a form of exercising for moms. Before I explain what “M0m-exercise” is, I want to get you really interested by showing you the benefits of exercising.
I know that moms especially Stay At Home Moms (after cleaning, doing the dishes, doing school runs and getting dinner ready); the last thing you want to do is “exercise”. But trust me on this one, MomLeaders, there are great benefits of “mom-exercising” – asides from the all too known benefit of weight loss:
Helps you feel happier:
Endorphins are your best friends. They are hormones that is known to produce positive feelings and reduce the perception of pain. Exercising increases the production of hormones called endorphins, which are known to help make you feel happier
Being at home can be a bit lonely/frustrating and the mind can really play games at times. Plus having to talk to toddlers all day or doing baby talk with newborns doesn’t help at times. Add in your female hormones and you will have a cocktail of a roller-coaster mood. Plus, you have to battle with mom-guilt as well.
Here’s the big one: you still have to care for your children and patiently answer their numerous questions, respond to their never ending requests without losing it.
I believe you will agree with me when I say that having all the help you can with your mood will really help.
Increases energy levels:
This is quite ironic because you would think exercising will use up all your energy. Yes! Maybe! whilst exercising and maybe a few minutes after. Exercise can improve energy levels because it strengthens the circulation and your heart muscle.This means more energy to keep up with your children and their needs.
Helps with skin health:
By increasing blood flow, exercise helps nourish skin cells and keep them vital. We all need that glow, right?!?
Helps with brain health:
The benefits of exercise come directly from its ability to reduce insulin resistance, reduce inflammation, and stimulate the release of growth factors—chemicals in the brain that affect the health, abundance, survival and growth of brain cells. (according to the Harvard Health Publishing).
I guess we can all say bye to “mommy brain”!
Helps with relaxation and sleeping:
All those sleepless nights with a newborn, sometimes can alter our sleeping pattern. Exercise can help with that – awesome!
What then is “Mom-exercise”?
It is a form of exercise designed specially for moms. Mom-exercise is a form of workout that suits moms schedule and way of life. It doesn’t have to be intense. Below are a list of Mom-exercises; pick the one that works best with you and have fun with it.
30 mins walk with the lil one in the stroller
Going up and down your stairs a couple of times (10x at a time)
Dancing time with the kiddos
Chair dips or squats
Step ups using the stairs
Whatever works for you, the most important thing is to make sure you schedule at least a 15 mins block for exercise (at least 3-5 times a week).