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How to create an effective TO DO LIST

 

EFFECTIVE TO DO LIST THAT WORKS// SIMPLE STEPS TO FOLLOW BEFORE YOU CREATE YOUR TO DO LIST

Your Productivity depends on an effective to do list. Time management is more like your calendar management. As a mom whether stay at home mom, working mom or work from moms, to do lists are a must-have which will help you to stay on track and manage your time well.

 

Regards,

 

Nike
Fellow Momleader

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Be Flexible – Momleader Mondays

BE FLEXIBLE

Tradition has played a very important role in how moms run their homes. The media doesn’t really help to be honest. Perfect pictures on social media put moms under pressure to be “perfect moms”.

There is a major comparison and perception when it comes to what being a ‘great mom’ is. There’s the theory of attachment vs Independence, working mom vs stay at home moms; breastfeeding moms vs bottle fed moms and what to feed your toddler and what not. The question is not “what is right” vs “what is wrong”.

The question is “what is best for your family at this moment?” At momleader, we believe that a mom understands her needs and her family’ needs and she is flexible without judgement or overwhelming mom-guilt.

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Have balance – Momleader Mondays

BALANCE

Moms juggle a lot. We know this because we ARE moms.

A Momleader understands balance because she has access to resources, lessons, hacks and tips that will help her have a balanced life at home, work, business or in the community. A momleader understands the importance of taking care and nurturing herself and knowing her priorities. When your family and goals are set, your intent of the day is known. We coach moms on how to be structured in aligning their goals and setting out to achieve them however, sometimes, that isn’t always possible and life happens. You can plan 10 things to do in a day and neither of them get done because your child is sick, or you are going through some fussy toddler times, or things just aren’t working for that day. We all know that children are not born with a manual – We all became moms the moment we were given our new born with no prior training. No matter how prepared we were to be a mom – when the real motherhood kicked in; we found out that we were not prepared!

We believe moms should be willing to take risks as well. Not everything tried and true will work for you! Remember that. You have to try new things and adjust – just because it didn’t work for your children once, try, try again! As we’ve been learning, they change their mind!

A momleader to us picks her battles, is organised, is able to adjust and has a positive mental attitude. Balance is key. You wanted to workout in the morning and your children wouldn’t let you because they were fighting and you were running late so you couldn’t get to the groceries. Stop and reflect. You still have the rest of the day to tackle these things. Put the time constraint and “time pressure” off of you and work in task based mode or in time blocks. Did you work out at all today even if it was in the evening? Did you end up going for a walk with the children as a flexible compromise instead of doing your normal gym routine? Did you throw in the towel today on everything because mentally you just weren’t “on”? Trust me moms. We know what you go through. Don’t mom-guilt yourself! We can be our biggest enemies. The biggest things I tell my clients is give yourself the flexibility to be human as well. For instance, you are allowed to say “I’m busy”. (I’m busy doing nothing and no I don’t want to get together with anyone because I am still in my pj’s and I don’t really want to clean my house…..) Thats ok! Don’t guilt yourself on it. Sometimes we can stay in that realm of having to get everything done but we need to be flexible in getting things done when we can – for example, I type this post as my child is in the bath. Another example is have some mental down time by showing up to your kid’s school 10 min early. There are ways to allow yourself some freedom of the task list. You just need to know where to bend and how to be flexible.

What’s really important to us is that our mom leaders understand their personal needs and their family’ needs and that they are flexible without judgement or overwhelming mom-guilt. So, talk to us. What’s your biggest challenge in achieving proper balance?

>>>>>  Have Balance – Momleader Mondays

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Be a High Performer – Momleader Mondays

BE A HIGH PERFORMER: Our core value

Happy Momleader Monday. We are excited to share with you our next core value which is being a High performer.

A Momleader is a High Performer, that is, we know what we want, and we put in the work everyday to be the very best version of ourselves. We are intentional in developing ourselves and we are willing to learn from others. It means that we are not afraid to get feedback from our trusted sources and other people in our lives to help us be better moms. There is no pride in asking for help and advice from a momma that has been there. Heck, we can all use some tips every now and then.

For us, being a mom leader also means it is not about perfection, it is about getting the job done well and quickly.  We are not afraid to say, “No” – which can be really hard for moms who put a lot of pressure on themselves to do everything. Sometimes we have to allow ourselves to settle for the “this is good enough”. Do the towels really have to be washed today or can you simply put them in the dryer and fold them until tomorrow? Does the kitchen floor really have to be both swept and mopped? Don’t fall into the trap of doing everything everyday and having to have your home perfect. I had a client that naturally put that pressure on herself and she had to re-shift her mindset on this. There are a lot of time saving techniques that can be implemented that can help in being efficient at home as well without sacrificing your personal standards. You might say, yes, the kitchen has to be done, yes, I must wipe down the cupboards everyday, Yes, I have to have that bed made perfectly or I can’t function. That’s fine. Adopt the tools that can help you succeed. Perhaps being a high performer means doing online grocery shopping or having a friend help you with dinner or meal prep. I encourage you to think of ways you can save time and bring more efficiency into your home.

What are some of your favourite ways to save time? What “No’s” do you struggle with the most?

Watch the video here >>>> Be a High Performer

Watch the other Core Values here <<<

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Be a Leader – Momleader Mondays

BE A LEADER: OUR CORE VALUE

Welcome to our very first momleader monday! On the blog today, we will be discussing our very first core value of Momleader: Leadership.

Many people ask me why mom LEADER? This is really the founding block of who we are.

What does Leadership mean? Leadership is influence. We know that Great leaders don’t use their “positional” powers to bring about change; they use their “personal” power. What is their personal power? INFLUENCE. Every mom has the ability to add value in their home. As a Momleader, we use our personal power – empathy, problem solving skills, resilience, ability to prioritize, adapt, make tough calls and our personality to influence our children so that the world will be a better place. When you are a Momleader, you are a great leader in your home; when you are Great leader – you are an INFLUENCER!

Remember moms, no matter what influence you have, you are bringing it to the table everyday in your home and with your children. We need to harness that influence and make sure it is aligning with who we are and our family goals. How are you influencing and leading in your home?

Watch here >>> Be A leader Video

Watch out intro video here >>> Core Value Intro Video

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Momleader Mondays – A Series

INTRODUCING MOMLEADER MONDAYS

Introducing Momleader’ Seven Core Values

Happy Monday to all our moms! We are so excited to introduce to you our Momleader Mondays – a series of videos that discuss our core values and the heart of who we are.

Over the coming weeks, we will be rolling out what drives us and what matters to us most at Momleader. Not only are we hoping to give you insight into who we are and what we believe in, but we also have some major changes brewing. Here at MomLeader, we have been working tirelessly to bring you the very best resources and platform to ensure your success at home, work, business and daily life.

So, Join us! See you next Monday as we discuss our very first core value, embark on some new changes with you, and share in our identity.

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Show love to your children
Howto Life Lessons Personal Development

Seven Practical Ways You Can Show Love To Your Children

SEVEN PRACTICAL WAYS YOU CAN SHOW LOVE TO YOUR CHILDREN
I get this most times from Moms in my MomLeader Coaching Programs.
I often ask this question: “Do you show love to your children, that is; You love your children but do they know that?”

Pretty ironic right?!?

Here are Seven (7)n Practical Ways You Can Show Love To Your Child.
PS: It is NEVER to late or too early to start.
1. TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM:
This seems like a no-brainer right!?

Life can get busy that all we communicate to our children is what they are not doing right or their schedules, what is expected of them etc.

We forget at times to tell them what they need to hear (even though the child will not admit it! lol).

They need to hear it from you that you love them…PERIOD!…Say it!

 

2. PRAISE THEM:

This is kind of tied in with you telling your child you love them, that is, how you show love to your children.

Praising them is something you have to do consciously especially when you are going through difficult times with your child. Because of moms “nurturer” nature, we often only see EVERYTHING that needs to be fixed and we NEGLECT the things that are going on well. Find the good in your child and praise them for it

 

3. LISTEN TO YOUR CHILD;

9 out of 10, the biggest issue we had with our parents was that they didn’t listen to us…so Mommas, why aren’t  we listening to our children?

Always adopt this Steve Covey Effective Listening style which is:
“Seek first to Understand, then to be Understood”.
That is, concentrate on what is being said; rather concentrating on your response.
 

4. BE PRESENT:

Doing more than one task at once seems great because it allows us to get so many things done in a limited amount of time.

The disadvantage is that we tend not to be present while carrying a task.

When spending time with your child, be present.

All you need to do is create a time block for your child, with no interruption and with you being fully present.

This is definitely important if you want to show love to your children.

 

5. LAX THE RULES ONCE IN A WHILE:
It is awesome to have a schedule with the children especially when dealing with younger children.

But every now and then, it is okay to lax the rules.

How about if they stay up  late on a Friday night and watch a goofy movie with you or eat their breakfast in bed on Saturday morning…whatever you know they would like, lax the rules and watch their faces light up…Priceless!

 

6. SURPRISE THEM:

Everyone loves a good surprise – not just on Birthdays!

But remember, it is about them and not about you; so bear that in mind when choosing either what to give them or  what activity to do.

Do your research and NAIL it!

 

7. CREATE FAMILY TIME:

This concept is super important because it creates and nurtures closeness between family especially siblings. It is just like how companies have Team building programs with their staff members to encourage Team Dynamics.

By taking time off and being diligent with Family Time will not only create great Team Dynamics with your children, it is also a way you can show your family that you love them!

 

There you have it, 7 Practical Ways You Can Show Love to Your Child…if you want more, you can download the 37 Practical Ways You Can Show Love To Your Child here >> >

Remember, to check out 101-self-care-ideas-for-moms

Keep Loving Mommas,

 

I’ll see you around.

 

Nike Famojuro

Fellow MomLeader

 

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Stay At Home Moms are CEOs

I just had to write about this!

When you ask a Stay At Home mom,”What do you do?”

She usually doesn’t maintain eye contact and answer shyly, “I stay at home with the kids”

Or she gives a very nervous laugh and say, “The kids are my job”.

I have been a Stay at Home mom myself and I have done the same no doubt (too many times than I count).

Even now as a work from home mom, if asked, “What do I do?”  I am so quick to talk about the work I do from home – I’m a Mom-coach as opposed to claiming my place as a Stay At home mom who also runs MomLeader.

 

My question has always been, “Why do I feel like the work of a Stay At Home Mom cannot be considered as a job?”

I know that I cannot put a price on motherhood but then I cannot ignore all the work that goes into staying at home with the children. From cooking to cleaning to school runs to mitigating fights to diffusing temper tantrums – you name it!

You are so busy throughout the day yet at the end of the day it looks like you haven’t done much!

 

Truth be told, not every woman can survive being a Stay At Home Mom. Did you know that according to mother.ly and salary.com, the salary of a Stay At Home Mom for 2018 was estimated to be $162,581 per year. This was over $5000 increase from what it was in 2017!

 

Acoording to Salary.com, Jobs that reflected a day in the life of a Mom was used to achieve this estimated salary.

Example of the hybrid roles were (I picked out just a handful that jumped at me) :

Accountant
Buyer
Coach
CEO
Dietician
Event Planner
Interior Designer
Janitor
Judge
Laundry Manager
Logistics Analyst
Marketing Manage
Tailor
Tax Accountant
Staff Nurse
Psychologist
Day Care Centre Teacher

 

I can see why? I’m sure you can see why too!

These roles were put into consideration when  I was developing my Coaching program: MomLeader Incubator – a program for moms who want to start their dream business. I know quite well that Moms wear multiple hats.

My advice is that the next time you are asked, “What do you do?”

Don’t just say that “I’m just a Stay At Home Mom” – No you are not “JUST!”

Being a Stat At home Mom is a respectable role; an high paying role at that!!!!

You either respond with pride that: “You are a Stay At Home Mom” or better still, you can give whoever is asking the question a run down of the hybrid roles above 🙂

If you are curious, you can calculate your estimated salary as a Stay At Home Mom here. Just plug in your details to see what your salary would have been.

You might be interested in reading my recent blogposts:

Stay At Home Moms vs Working Moms

15 Honest Truths about Pregnancy

List of Inspiring Mom-Goals

 

I’ll see you around

Nike

Fellow MomLeader

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